One of the hardest things for me to learn was how to say “no” to people. I always want to help and be of service, so I often would say “yes” even when I knew that it was not aligned with what I needed at the time. I was always afraid that I would hurt the requestor’s feelings, or that I wasn’t being a good friend, colleague, or partner. Then the guilt would roll in. However, I know understand that when I communicate my boundaries in a honest way, NO ONE is mad or upset with me. Learning how to say no without beating myself up has been the most important step in my escape from expectations!