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The full moon on Christmas will be the first in 40 years.
As we often prepare gifts for the kids in our family, This moon calls for us to give the biggest gift to our own inner child: healing, love, acceptance, and forgiveness.
If there was ever a time to do so, it’s now. The moon’s got your back.
Here is a simple ritual based on the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono to guide your healing this full moon:
You will need:
- 2 blue candles (used for forgiveness and healing – especially with children)
- 2 white candles (used for purity and clearing of negativity)
- Picture of yourself as a child (optional)
If possible, get as close to moonlight as possible. Outdoors is best, but if temp won’t allow, try being near an open window where moonlight pours in.
Set up the candles in a square around you. If you are using a picture, create a mini-altar and place the candles in a square around the picture of you. Alternate the candles so that blue is opposite white.
- Spend a few minutes to quiet the mind and body. Focus your attention on one of the candles and let your mind clear. Or, alternatively, bring your attention to your breath, counting odd numbers on the inhale and even numbers on the exhale.
- Think about something from your childhood (or even now!) for which you are still blaming yourself, or for which you feel guilt, pain, or shame. Let whatever emotions arise just be. Do not try to judge or push them away. Allow them to rise and sit on the surface.
- Use the 4 steps of Ho’oponopono:
Step 1: Repentance
Say: “I’m sorry.”
In this step you acknowledge the concerns of your inner child. Accept that this hard experience happened and that you are sorry. Imagine yourself wrapping your arms around a five-year-old you and just letting little you know that you are sorry for the pain she has experienced.
Step 2: Forgiveness
Say: “Please forgive me.”
Honor the remorse you feel for your inner child still being in pain. Maybe your child feels guilty or responsible for a parent’s actions. Whatever. Doesn’t matter who or what it’s directed to, just ask!
Step 3: Gratitude
Say: “Thank you.”
Thank your inner child for being so brave all these years or thank her for protecting you. Thank your body, thank whatever just forgave you. Just express your gratitude!
Step 4: Love
Say: “I love you.”
Repeat it over and over again. Feel it. Accept it. Love heals all.
You can do this ritual once, or as many times as you’d like. I would suggest doing the whole routine at least four times. I personally like to repeat the process until my candles extinguish themselves.
Have you done a Ho’oponopono ritual before? If you have, or do this ritual as I’ve described for this Christmas full moon, be sure to comment below how it felt for you or what emotions came up!
When most people hear the word “ritual”, their mind starts to conjure up all sort of images. Cloaked witches offering animal sacrifices or ancient monks with Tibetan singing bowls. However, rituals are much more simplistic than we think. Rituals are the way that we connect with the world and energy around us. How we embrace the sacred power within us and that fuels all existence. No matter if you speak of God, the Universe, energy, or even higher self. Ritual is our lifeline to the divine.
Today, in the hustle and bustle of the modern world, many of us have lost contact with the concept of ritual. This has left us feeling disconnected, confused, and alone. We are isolated and stranded, dangling in a complex universe with no spiritual safety net to save us.
Maybe you were taught that a ritual had to be something special, done in a church, or a part of a certain religion. That couldn’t be further from the truth! A ritual can be many things. Lighting a unique candle at the start of each meal. Saying an evening prayer. Taking a moment to contemplate a personal altar. Even setting aside one night each week for a board game and a pizza has the potential to become an important family ritual.
By creatively and actively inventing ritual, you can bring your own sense of purpose and how you fit into the universe. Rituals are meant not only to celebrate significant moments, but to ease us through difficult times by preserving stability and to establish bonds that transcend time.
Taking time each day to perform an action you find calming or to bless home, family, or friends is a way to learn to appreciate each individual moment and to find happiness in the present, regardless of what the past has held or what the future promises to bring.
Here are some quick tips to create more rituals in your daily life:
Look for activities you do everyday that give you a sense of comfort and balance. Make these activities a priority.
Choose a favorite space in your home such as a comfy chair or certain room to complete your ritual activities.
Create routines for different times of the day to keep your vibrational energy high. For example, make a playlist of your favorite songs to listen to as you get ready in the morning. Head to bed happy after some relaxation yoga and a cup of your favorite tea.
Ready for some ideas for creating rituals? Here’s a list to help you get started!
- saying affirmations
- showing appreciation or gratitude
- using incense, aroma therapy oils or scented candles
- placing artwork or a meaningful picture or drawing in your workspace
- bathing or showering with special soaps, salts, or gels
- blessing of food
- burning lists of negative self-talk or fears as a symbol of letting go
- book or notes representing your specific learning
- breathing meditation
- Using divination systems such as Oracle Cards
- Wearing certain colors
- Creating a dream or manifestation vision board
- Carrying crystals, gems, stones
- journaling your dreams
- dressing – in unique clothes, or shawl or sash
- eating with mindfulness, presence, awareness
- expression of gratitude when paying for anything
- focus on having a balanced etheric vital energy body
- greetings: saying hello or waving good-bye as you affirm your positive intentions for others
- grooming rituals like shaving, applying makeup, brushing teeth, combing hair
- journal writing, your journal and all it represents
- Creating personal mantras
- Creatie a personal prayer, manifesto, or creed
- reviewing your ‘to do’ list – set an intention that your activities will be quick, easy, efficient, effective and beautiful
- Creating a sacred book of blessings, pictures, prayers, poems, inspiration … anything
- Smudging sage to cleanse and purify
- stretches and exercises
- Wear a special talisman, charm, amulet
- Celebrate the different seasons, moon cycles, solstice, equinox, holidays
- Practice yoga or Tai Chi
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You hold back the tears when you see your significant other, knowing that you just can’t express your deepest sorrows. You wish you felt more feminine, soft, and gentle. You crave to feel the love of your friends and family within your soul. You’re tired of the days of shrugging off the compliments and praise.
You’re ready to feel. You’re ready to connect. You’re ready to unleash your inner goddess.
When we are not feeling connected with ourselves, it is impossible to connect with others. In order to share love with our friends and family, we have to make it a consistent practice to show love to ourselves. However, when life leaves you stressed and overwhelmed, it becomes far too easy to lose that intimate space of love and acceptance within ourselves. We begin to blame ourselves and beat ourselves up. However, this only makes things worse. The further we step out of love with oursleves, the less likely we are to be able to experience the love and joy in our life.
The following is a simple process you can use whenever you need to amp up your self-love. It will help you unleash your love, feel loved, and truly connect with your friends and family. This is a process that is most effective if repeated in consecutive days.
The Luxury Bath
What you need:
- 6 roses – 2 red, 2 pink, and 2 white
- A candle that calls to you (something pretty or with a beautiful fragrance)
Your favorite tea
It’s important that these items are purchased new, specifically for this purpose.
- Make yourself a hot cup of your favourite tea.
- Draw yourself a hot bath with one cup of Epsom salts (bubble bath optional).
- Light your candle, put the petals of ONE of the red roses into the bath while it’s filling
- Relax in the bath while you drink your tea and allow yourself to play with the rose petals
- Place the rose petals one by one over your heart
- Take 11 deep breaths, inhaling through your nose, and exhaling through your mouth
- Sink into the bath and allow the rose petals to float on.
Day Two: Repeat this process above, using the other red rose
Day Three: Use one Pink rose for your Luxury Bath
Day Four: You guessed it. Use that other pink rose
Day Five: Surprise! Use one white rose
Day Six: Use your single last white rose for your Luxury Bath
Want to power up the practice? Add a Rose Quartz crystal into the bath or Therapeutic Grade essential oils (such as doTERRA’s Balance, geranium, Lavender, or serenity) to your wrists.
This self care ritual will revolutionize your entire life. Allowing you to feel centred, connected, and full of love. Please allow yourself to experiment with the Luxury Bath! Add varying flowers, crystals, essential oils, or music. Allow yourself the pleasure of taking a luxury bath every week and notice how grateful you feel.
How do you reconnect with yourself when you are feeling lonely or unloved? Comment below and share your favorite self-love rituals.
Amanda Rae is an Intuitive Energy Coach. She was born, raised, and currently lives in Nipawin, Saskatchewan, Canada with her husband and two children. She helps women balance their energy so that they can unpack their emotional baggage. By helping women move into the energy of manifestation and bliss, she opens the doors to truly living the dream. Learn more about her work by visiting TheAmandaRae.com or find her on Facebook.
Of course, it is the human nature to want these things. However, your experience is unique! What would you do if you had all the money in the world? How would you spend your days without the constraint of time? What does it look like to be free?
These are answers that only WE can answer. That’s where the inner voice comes in!
Journal (preferable) or paper
Pen, pencil, or your favorite writing utensil
A quiet, comfy space
At the top of the paper write the question “Is this what I really want?”
Close your eyes and take three, deep, cleansing breaths.
Open your eyes and write for 10 minutes. Write about the wonderful things you have in your life. Write about all the things you may have wanted. Include things you let go of because they seemed to difficult.
Let yourself write about what you really, really, want.
Allow your thoughts to flow freeely. Don’t edit anything. If you have always envisioned yourself as a performer, but haven’t sang outside of Karaoke night, don’t worry, just write it down! Whatever the inner critic voice inside your head might be saying, acknowledge and surrender to it. Then, keep writing. The voice will fade away and you will be left giving life to your dreams.
Once the timer goes off and you’re finished, re-read what you wrote.
Reflect: How did it feel? Did anything surprising show up on the page? Did you feel hopeless that you’ll never get what you really want? Or did you feel excited rediscovering something you lost? It doesn’t really matter. Accept your emotions and remember that anything that comes up can be worked out.
Knowing the difference between your inner voice and your inner fear is one of the most extremely powerful tools you can have in your self-care toolbox. Getting to know the difference between fear and intuition takes practice and it is absolutely worth the effort.
What You Need:
A little time and a quiet space.
How it Works:
- Imagine someone or something you love (such as a friend, a child, a pet).
- Make the image in your head as clear as possible.
- Notice the feeling in your belly that goes with this picture. This feeling should be calming and expansive.
- Now, imagine a destructive image of something that really makes you feel upset. Maybe not getting your dream job, not being able to pay a bill, etc. Notice the feeling. Likely it is constrictive and tight.
- Finally, imagine a fearful feeling based on guidance from your inner intuition. For example, this might be going to the doctor for a check-up when you haven’t been feeling well, even though you have anxiety about going to hospitals.
- Notice how the mix of feelings that sit in your body. How does the fear show up? And how does it interact with the underlying good feeling about doing something you know is right?
Your inner fear voice is perfectly natural, and not without its wisdom. Fear can tell you when something is wrong or alert you about situations that do not serve your highest good. The trick is learning to know when the voice inside is leading your towards your dreams, or when it is holding you back.
How do you tell the difference between your inner intuition and inner fear? Comment about your own personal practices (or this one, when you try it!) in the section below!
One of the hardest things for me to learn was how to say “no” to people. I always want to help and be of service, so I often would say “yes” even when I knew that it was not aligned with what I needed at the time. I was always afraid that I would hurt the requestor’s feelings, or that I wasn’t being a good friend, colleague, or partner. Then the guilt would roll in. However, I know understand that when I communicate my boundaries in a honest way, NO ONE is mad or upset with me. Learning how to say no without beating myself up has been the most important step in my escape from expectations!